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FFA members are go-getters by nature, but that desire to achieve can lead to an overbooked schedule and lots of stress.
Motivational speaker and writer Grant Baldwin has been there. He talks with teens and holds workshops all over the country to help young people get a handle on their busy lives.
Baldwin’s new book, Reality Check, answers 50 questions teens have about life after high school, including how to balance it all – school, relationships, friends, jobs and other activities – while fitting in some time to just enjoy life.
“Balance is a big deal,” he says. “We all hear stories of people who work all their lives to have a heart attack and die at age 50. Who wants to do that? I want to be 90 or 100 and look back and say, ‘I really enjoyed life.’ What’s your other choice?”
Baldwin offers some practical tips to help find balance:
Determine What Matters.
It’s tough, but it’s often necessary to decide what matters most to you, and let some things go.
“Like a buffet, you may want to try everything,” Baldwin says. “But the reality is you can’t eat every single thing on the buffet. You have to pick the top few things you really want to try.”
Create Boundaries.
The most organized, time-managed person still has limits.
“Like a full glass of water, a lot of us are literally at capacity, and people continue to ask us to do things,” Baldwin says. “We pretend we have no limits, but water is spilling everywhere.”
“The challenge with saying no is we’re all basically people pleasers,” he adds. “We don’t want to let people down.”
Bottom line: It doesn’t mean you’re rude or lazy if you have to turn people down when your schedule is full, Baldwin says. It just means your schedule is full.
Who You Are Is Important.
As a teenager, you are making huge life decisions about who you are as a person.
“If you work your whole life to attain status and titles and money, and you are a shell of a human being, is that worth it?” Baldwin asks. “Is that the kind of life you want to live? There are a lot of wealthy people who are miserable.”
Be true to your own interests, he says, instead of chasing money or status for the sake of impressing other people.
Learn to balance.
“The idea of staying in balance on a daily basis is somewhat of a myth,” Baldwin says. “It is a constant struggle to keep yourself in balance. It doesn’t just happen. You have to be extremely proactive about finding balance and work at it every day.”
And, it’s perfectly OK to take a day off every once in a while just to do something that you enjoy, whether it’s riding a horse or watching reruns on the couch.
“In order to stay balanced, you have to find what energizes you,” he says. “Find those things that give you life, and don’t exclude them from your plans.”
Visit www.grantbaldwin.com for more information.
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